Rina Poetoe, 40

Women, Fabulous Over 40

If your friends/family had to describe you in 3-4 words, what would they say?

Kind, funny, caring

What would you say is your best emotional quality?

I empathise with others.

What is your occupation and how do you like to spend your free time?

I'm a child psychologist. In my free time I love to walk in nature, read, watch my favourite TV shows, hang out with my friends and family,(and occasionally go to the gym, haha).

What are you most proud of?

I have always wanted to write a book. But I was always too scared and overwhelmed by negative thoughts (I'm not a professional writer, I can't do this, who am I to write a book etc). And then right before my 40th birthday I decided to make this long time wish come true. Because I had a story that was worth telling. With the help of a writing coach I released my book in April this year. It's a story about a spiritual mountain walk I did back in my 20’s that changed my life, and it's about the strength of women, and sisterhood and female friendships and gratitude. I'm so proud i found the courage to make this dream of mine, of writing and publishing this book, this personal story, come true.

What is your favourite poem, quote or saying?

“Show me all the parts of you that you do not love, so I know where to begin (I think it's by Ava, but don't really know the origin of this quote). I love it, because we women are often judged by our appearance, and that can make us so insecure. I think we should celebrate each other's so-called flaws and show love and acceptance, exactly as we are.

What advice would you give your 20-year old self looking back?

You are worthy of your own love. Self-worth and self love aren't things you have to earn by other people's approval. You ARE love. And you are more than enough.

When you entered your 40's, what did you find were the most significant or poignant changes?

 As I turned 40 I came to appreciate my own opinion of myself . Whereas before I used to calculate other peoples opinions more than my own.

Do you have a story about yourself that you would like to share?

My weight has been an issue for a long time. Yo-yo-ing up and down in kgs. Last October I decided to live a more healthy life and learn more about finding balance in my diet. With the help of a dietician I have lost 17 kgs. Not only do I feel more confident in my body, I have also learned to redefine my relationship with food, a more healthy relationship.

What are your thoughts on aging?

 Aging is a blessing.

Do you still have a dream or big goal that you would love to accomplish?

I love to travel, and I travel as much as I can. So I will continue doing that. When I was younger I had certain goals, for example careerwise. But now my goal is to be more mindful in everyday life, taking the time to appreciate my blessings, the small ones and the big ones.

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